exhilarating:

zikrayat:

I’m going to do something that might lose me some followers. I’m gonna call you out. Why? Because it’s come to my attention that the recent actions of certain people on this website regarding hijab has brought several people to the point that they are considering taking off their hijab.

 Your self righteous discussion of all the behavior that you don’t do has no place here. Instead of gently guiding, your chiding and childish way of going about things has turned into mocking and belitting.

How dare you make someone feel like a poor representation of Islam? How dare you make sisters here feel inadequate as Muslimahs to wear the hijab? Allah sees all, more than we see, and best believe you will be judged and held accountable for your actions.

The same people criticizing those who wear nailpolish, skinny jeans and makeup are the ones that get plenty of hate their way. You should know the feeling of the world judging you, appropriately or inappropriately.

Learning this has just turned me off completely to a good portion of the tumblr ummah here.

Best believe from now on, if you say something ridiculous, you’re getting unfollowed, and I will call you out. This is getting personal because you’re driving MY friends to want to take off their hijabs. This is not okay. It’s not Islamic and you’re creating fitna and more haram things than halal.

If you are really concerned about the effect that nailpolish and big hijabs has on the ummah, strive to make yourself the best you can be, and lead by example.

To everyone feeling insecure about their hijab these past few days, I’ve been feeling it too. But our hijab is between us and Allah, not the masses. Strive in the way of righteousness and fear Allah.

All praise is due to Allah, only the mistakes are mine.

For months, I’ve been feeling like shit about my hijab; either my non-hijab wearing friends don’t approve and want me to take it off or I get bashed for wearing my hijab the way I do. There’s no middle ground apparently. I’ve been contemplating seriously taking off the hijab for months now, this being one of the big reasons. 

Living in the West, it’s really difficult to wear the hijab. So in order for me to not get shit for wearing it, I wear it in a different way than in the proper way. But not only do I want to fit in to the society here, but I also want to fit in with my Muslim community.

What makes it worse, is that the majority of the people I see bashing others and bashing me for the way we wear hijab, or don’t even wear hijab, are guys. Funny, because they don’t know what it’s like and will never experience the trial of wearing hijab, yet they believe they have the right to criticize. Advice, sure. But to sit on Tumblr or in a men’s halaqa and discuss how terrible the Ummah is now because we don’t wear proper hijab… yeah, no.

And then there are the women that bash the way we wear hijab… just stop. We’re not all going through the same things, we don’t live the same lives, we don’t have the same iman… so just let it be. If you have the strength to wear hijab the proper way, to wear an abaya, to wear niqab even, alhamdulillah I’m really happy for you and insha’Allah I will get there too. But I’m not there yet, I’m merely working on it.

Instead of making me hate being a Muslim by criticizing my personal choices in Islam, help me to become a better Muslimah. Hold my hand, teach me, advise me, and be my friend through this trial in this dunya, then insha’Allah I will meet the requirements of my Lord, and with your help, which you will be blessed for. 

I’m trying here. I really am. We all are. So let us take baby steps… baby steps or we will fall backwards. No one can have an iman boost over night, it’s something to work on. And I’m working on it. And she’s working on it. And he’s working on it. So let us work on it, because if we can’t do it at our own pace, we’re not going to be getting better in Islam… either we’re going to fake it and our intentions will be wrong, or we will drop Islam all together. And trust me, I’ve been in that position where I’ve wanted to just leave Islam because of the crap I get from the Ummah for my choices. 

Alhamdulillah for the people in my life that do accept me even with my choices, and are there for me when I need help and advise concerning Islam related issues. Without them, I’m sure I wouldn’t be here right now as a Muslim, discussing this.

you both are very strong women, and I urge you to stay strong.  I can assure anyone that the “downfall” of our Ummah is not from anyone wearing the hijab or not wearing the hijab correctly, or the way some people deem it correct, but instead, I fear that the actual Fitna within our Ummah that will lead to the breaking apart of the Ummah is this exact nit picking, and criticism.  

Sisters i know its hard hearing criticism and bashing left and right from both sides, and i know this might sound cliche, but always remember that you wear the hijab for Allah swt, and no one else. May you all stay strong and continue to obey Allah swt, because He knows we all try, no one else needs/deserves an explanation.